Why I Don't Want a Wedding

*Note: I have nothing against traditional weddings, this is just a post on why it wouldn't be right for me*

The post on why I'm not getting married before 30 mentioned in the end that I don't want a traditional wedding: getting married in front of all my family and friends and a wedding reception to follow.  I would rather get married in Vegas, preferably by Captain Jack Sparrow or Reba but I'll settle for Elvis.  And before I get emails about it, no, there is no man (or woman for that matter) in my life right now.  But I'm pretty sure that when I do find someone I can stand to be around for the rest of my life, they will have no problem skipping the risk of having a bridezilla on his hands days before the wedding.

Like most females, yes I have put some thought into how I would like my wedding to be.  See, I can be a little girly at times.  My ideas are just a little different than most.

So to answer the main question: Why Vegas?

I remember my mother saying when I was teenager that if she could do it all over again, she would probably get married in Vegas (yes mom, you said that, remember my memory is stellar).  I thought about it and said yes, that would be a lot of fun.  Plus, I get to skip the stress of actually planning a wedding (I really don't care about centerpieces and would probably drive a wedding planner crazy with that attitude).  I'm not one to be at the center of attention, I don't want all eyes on me.  Or dealing with all the hair, makeup, getting the dress on- picking a dress too! For something I'm going to wear once, those things can be expensive and I'm pretty frugal.  I'd probably ask my mother to make one along with all her pillowcase dresses for her granddaughter. AND I get to avoid the whole hurting someone's feelings if I don't ask them to be a bridesmaid or pick one person to be the maid-of-honor over another (not saying that it would happen, the people I would probably ask are pretty cool about those things).

Plus, Vegas would be fun.  If we wanted to get married in 2 months, we can.  Don't have to worry about buying dresses and tuxes, reserving a reception place, caters, centerpieces, the money, sending out invites, posing for all the pictures (because I don't understand the whole looking at your flowers pics.  Why do photographers do that?  Yes, they're flowers, we all don't need to stare at them), getting a photographer.  Okay, I would want some professional-like pictures being taken but not the staring at the flowers one ::note to self, no flower bouquets at the Vegas wedding.....HA! Can't make me stare at flowers then!::  I mean, when I see pictures like that from other people's weddings, I think they look nice but I would burst out laughing if I have to stare at flowers.  Whoa, way off track.  Where was I?  Oh yes, essentially, I could get married faster with 1/10 of the hassle/stress of planning a wedding.

Some questions I'm sure people are wondering.

1. Would my parents agree with this?

They save a ton on skipping the wedding/reception route AND get an excuse to go to Vegas......what do you think their response would be?

2. What if the guy doesn't want to do that?

Quite honestly, I don't think we would be getting as far as an engagement because our personalities probably clash too much.  And the thought of a church wedding scares me.

3. Would you let family and friends come?

Sure, all who want to go would be invited (except crazy exes).

4. Why make everyone travel so far?

The way I think of it, if I was to have a wedding, it would either be here, back home, or wherever the guy is from or currently living (hopefully we are at the same address by that point).  Someone is going to have to fly across the country regardless of where it is.

5. But....no reception even?

Okay, I was lying a little when I said that.  I wouldn't mind having a small get together where I'm living at that point and back at home with friends and family to celebrate, especially if not all are able to fly across the country.  But something small at either my parent's house or at a small banquet hall.

6. And your dress?

I'd buy a dress, not a wedding dress, but a nice one for the occasion.




If you have ever been married in Vegas (or somewhere similar) or skipped the whole ceremony (ie court wedding) please share your stories on what you did, whether or not you regret it looking back, and any ideas on who to be married by in the comments below.